“If My Husband Would Change, I’d Be Happy: And Other Myths Wives Believe” by Rhonda Stoppe

There are 12 chapter contents to this book. Some of which: “I will respect him when he earns my respect. (The concept of unconditional respect)”; “All he wants is sex. (when you long for romance)”; “I would be happier married to someone else. (The grass is not greener on the other side of the fence)” and more!

Most of the book is written by the author Rhonda, but towards the end of every chapter, her husband writes some paragraphs from his perspective about the current chapter. I think that having the husband’s perspective along with the wife’s perspective on every chapter is really informative and greatly adds to content of this book.

Also at the end of every chapter she includes a “thinking it through” questions and “living it out” questions. All the chapters suggest scripture references to read as well. You can also go to her website to hear audio clips from each chapter. They can be found under the free resources tab.

I really enjoyed this book-it was very easy to read! I personally needed to read chapters 2 and 3 which I feel will help me become more kind, loving, more respectful, and more appreciative of my husband.

This is a wonderful Christian marriage book and almost all the advice in each chapter boils down to our love and obedience to God.

In chapter 5 titled “I would be happier married to someone else”; they list eight practical ways to cultivate a happy marriage.
1. Have a realistic expectations.
2. Your husband is not like you.
3. Think the best about your husband.
4. Be kind to one another.
5. Refuse to fantasize about being married to someone else.
6. Your husband is not your enemy.
7. Love Christ more than you love your husband.
8. Determine that divorce will never be an option.

“The key to having an all out love for your husband lies in how well you love God.”

“It is never too late to transform your marriage by applying God’s principles to your marriage relationship.”

I received a complimentary copy of this book from LitFuse Publicity in exchange for an honest review on my blog and social media-all opinions are my own.

About the book:
If My Husband Would Change, I’d Be Happy: And Other Myths Wives Believe (Harvest House, August 2015)

Like most brides on their wedding day, you no doubt were filled with love for your husband and the hope of a happy life together.

But perhaps today, as the realities of life together have settled in, those happy expectations are going unfulfilled. And it’s tempting to think, “If only my husband would change, I’d be happy.”

That myth is but one of many that Rhonda Stoppe dispels in her easy-to-read exploration of what it takes to experience a truly happy marriage. In the process, she addresses such important topics as

-understanding your husband’s need for your unconditional respect
-rekindling the love that drew you to your husband in the first place
-refusing to believe the lie that you’d be happier married to someone else
-learning to be content in the midst of financial struggles
-thinking about sex from a biblical worldview

If you desire to rekindle the love and hope you felt on your wedding day, this book will go a long way toward making that dream come true.

Contains discussion questions and personal reflections at the end of each chapter.

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About the author:
Rhonda Stoppe is the No Regrets Woman. She is an author and speaker dedicated to helping women live life with no regrets. With more than 20 years’ experience as a mom, mentor, and pastor’s wife, Rhonda’s wisdom and experience helps women discover significance in God and His specific purpose for their lives, connect biblical principles to everyday decisions, develop a loving marriage that others dream about, and influence the next generation by raising children with integrity.